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Joseph F. Haley

March 21, 1942 — February 5, 2023

Provincetown, MA

Joseph F. 'Joe' Haley passed away peacefully at his home in Provincetown on February 5, 2023 with his husband, Eric and close friends by his side, after a brave fight against cancer over the last year.

Joe was born in Dorchester, MA, a son to the late Francis G. and Florence (Rogers) Haley, the youngest of 9 siblings, all of whom have predeceased him. He graduated from Dorchester High School in 1960 and earned a degree in Business Administration from St Francis Xavier Antigonish, Nova Scotia, Canada in 1965. He worked at Gillette for 10 years as a business analyst before his entrepreneurial spirit called him to start his first business, a restaurant in Hampton Beach, NH.

After 5 years in he decided to take a big leap and bought two burnt out buildings in Boston’s Fenway area with his late partner Gene Hurd. They spent over a year restoring the buildings and on May 7, 1982, The Oasis Guest House began welcoming travelers to Boston.

In 2000, Joe and his husband Eric purchased two more buildings adjacent to the Oasis, and Adam’s Bed and Breakfast was born. In May of 2022, The Oasis and its sister property celebrated 40 years of hospitality to people from all over the world, or as Joe said at the time “40 Glorious Years!”

Hospitality was more than a business for Joe, it was a way of life. There was always room at the table for another guest when Joe was involved. The parties and dinners he hosted over the years were legendary. While he was always generous and shared all that he had, he never did share that final ingredient for his famous meat loaf. He welcomed friends and family to visit him in his beloved Provincetown, and in the winter months at his home in Ft Lauderdale.

Joe was successful in life, but he never forgot his humble beginnings and his understated humility was one of his many very special qualities. He knew how to connect with people and make everyone feel welcomed and special. Joe quietly supported a number of organizations in Boston whose work he cared greatly about including Fenway Health and Community Servings.

Joe is survived by his husband of nearly 29 years, Eric Tingdahl; his dear friends, Hal Langell, Stephen Mastrorilli, Richard Olson and his husband Richard Smith. He is also survived by many nephews, nieces and great nephews and nieces, whom he loved dearly, and wonderful friends in Boston, Provincetown and Fort Lauderdale.

Family and friends will honor and remember Joe's life by gathering for visiting hours in the Murphy Funeral Home, 1020 Dorchester Ave., DORCHESTER, on Sunday, February 12th from 2:00 - 6:00 p.m.

His Funeral Mass will be celebrated in Holy Family Parish, 24 Harford Street, Dorchester, Monday February 13th at 9:30 a.m. Following Mass a procession will take Joe to his burial in Saint Peter's Cemetery in Provincetown.

In lieu of flowers donations may be made in Joe’s name to: Community Servings, 179 Amory St, Jamaica Plain, MA 02130 ( and Fenway Health, Development Department, 1340 Boylston Street, Boston, MA 02215

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Sunday, February 12, 2023

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